I get an email from my ex saying she will be driving to Brisbane and can drop the kids off at my place for the last weekend of the school holidays. That’s like over two weeks away and means she will have them for the whole holidays. Her reasoning is she is having family come and stay the first week of the holidays and then different family the second.
I had spoken to the kids and while they liked the family that was visiting they didn’t want to spend the whole week with them if it was going to preclude them from visiting us.
I drafted my response to my ex:
Dear Stalin
While your authoritarian rule and using your kids as pawns so you can virtue signal and people please your family may give you a brief sense of well-being it is not in alignment with what the kids want to do. I understand this is news to you since there is no way you would have asked them what they want. And I suppose it doesn’t matter since you care even less what they want.
Enjoy the holidays.
I then wrote:
I would like them to visit for a few days as well in between now and then.
I then did a 10th step. This was certainly a resentment. The inconvenient truth was that I was quite happy with the arrangement. I was actually looking forward to 2 weeks with no kids. And the kicker was I could blame her, be a victim, and virtue signal. Owch!
One can only laugh. Thank God for the steps.
Red Pill Recovery 